Ok, But What Do I Get Out of It?
Sharing in this context allows you to open up in an intentionally safe space. It’s a chance to speak your mind and feel heard; it’s also an opportunity to really hear yourself. Sometimes, we start a conversation about one thing, only to realize halfway through that the heart of the issue is something else — something deeper. You may or may not have a major revelation, but you’ll definitely learn something about yourself.
Listening helps you to set your own opinions aside and see things from a different point of view. When we open our minds to another person’s perspective, we can truly empathize and begin to change our relational dynamics for the better.
Validation is a basic human need that most people don’t get enough of. If you’ve ever shared something and felt compelled to ask, Does that make sense?, this step will give you peace of mind. From the listener’s perspective, validating the sharer is an opportunity to dive in and really get someone else’s world.