My younger sister and I couldn’t be more different. I’m a Type A lawyer in NYC; she’s a bohemian performer residing on a communal farm in Colorado. We were extremely close as children, but drifted into a pattern of benignly sporadic contact, often going weeks without speaking. That changed in March 2020.
We started to talk, text, and FaceTime constantly. We checked in on our elderly parents daily, united in our concern for them. When our grandmother died a few months later, we sobbed together in our grief. As life regains a semblance of normalcy, our regular chats continue to flow with pictures of her herb garden and artwork; videos of my dog and kids; recipes, reminisces, future plans. We have never gone this long without seeing each other, yet we have never been closer. - Mari, 48
My relationship with my husband has truly been my saving grace this year. Prior to the pandemic, we were coming out of a very bumpy place. Though we had committed to working through it, I was terrified that the realities of quarantine would be too much for our struggling relationship to handle.
Thankfully, this time together has allowed us to start the process of rebuilding trust, and has given us an opportunity to reconnect in ways that are critical to our future success as a couple. I have learned to be a better listener and a greater consumer of critical feedback. He has learned to be patient with my burgeoning anxiety, and how to be heard without being patronizing.
While I have always been sure he is my “person,” this past year has reinforced it beyond measure.
- Sarah, 43
My son and I have spent hours bonding over comedy series like The Office, Schitt’s Creek, and Arrested Development. Sometimes I’ll walk into the room and hear him chuckling at the TV, and it just tickles me — especially when I glance at his face and see his amusement. It’s just the best to laugh together with my son. - Bradley, 47
Video chatting has not only been a lifeline to stay connected, but has actually facilitated a depth of growth in the relationship with my parents, both for me and my children. Every day, my parents have story time with my kids, shortening a 3,000 mile distance to feeling their presence in the room. We’ve had regular “hangouts” with my parents, spent cooking together and laughing over the grilled cheese assembly line to feed 4 children in 20 minutes between Zoom classes.
There have been days when I could look my mom in the eyes and cry, or when she could see my face and say, “What’s wrong? I can see there is something going on — let’s talk”. Despite being so far apart, we’ve been able to grow, share, develop, and deepen our relationship. - Rachel, 38